FourFourSeconds ago I wrote a piece about the importance of knowing your sexual preferences, so I wanted to share some tips for knowing when it’s appropriate to ask someone about your sexual history.
Here’s what I found: There are plenty of reasons to be curious about someone’s sexual past, and if you’re having a hard time figuring out if it’s ok to ask them out, here are a few guidelines that can help you navigate a conversation about your sexuality.
Ask to go out with someone You know that someone you’re seeing is attracted to you.
That person probably knows you, or they’ve known you for a while.
This is not a “you know” question.
It’s a way to ask “is that okay?”
If you’re dating someone, ask them if they want to go with you.
They may want to be with you, but you might want to ask what’s in it for them.
Ask someone if they’re gay Ask a straight person if they are attracted to people of the same gender.
You don’t need to ask to know if you are or aren’t gay, but if you can be sure you’re not, this is a good question to ask.
The answer may surprise you.
Some people are okay with asking if they know someone who is.
Other people don’t like being asked about their sexual history and will refuse to share it.
You can ask about the person’s sexuality in a variety of ways.
This could include, for example, asking if you could date them, asking about your partners sexual history, asking what they look like, or asking if there are any specific aspects of their sexual life you’d like to know more about.
If you feel you know someone you’d be willing to date, ask for their phone number.
This may seem like a little awkward, but it can make you feel like you’re getting to know someone new.
Sometimes this will be more of a “I’m curious, what are you doing with my phone?” than an “I’ve met you once and you’re a good person” question, but asking for their number can also be a way of confirming you’re interested in them.
Know if they have a history of being attracted to other people Ask a person you’re thinking about dating if they’ve ever had a sexual history with another person.
If they have, this might be a good time to ask about it.
There are several types of sexual history: sexual abuse or sexual abuse by someone you know, sexual abuse that happened when you were a child, or unwanted sexual touching.
A history of sexual abuse may be related to someone else you’ve known or are dating.
A sexual history may also be related by another factor, such as if they were abused in childhood, or if they went to a different school or were adopted.
Sexual history can also include dating someone you’ve never met, having a partner of the opposite gender, or being in a romantic relationship with someone you have a crush on.
Know what you can expect to find out If you’ve met someone and you think you know them well, you may be surprised to learn they have some sexual history that’s similar to your own.
You may be shocked at the things they say or do that they might not be comfortable with sharing, or feel uncomfortable asking about it at all.
This will be OK, because you know how important it is to keep a safe distance.
If someone you met doesn’t want to share their past with you or they’re uncomfortable sharing it with you because of some kind of social stigma, ask if you want to keep it private.
They can say they’re okay with that and they may not have to be very specific.
If that’s the case, it might be OK to share the details.
But if you have other questions, be sure to ask that first.
If the answer to your question is yes, it means you’re ready to explore their past.
If not, ask another question about how they’re dealing with their own history.
There’s no reason to assume that they won’t tell you something about themselves, or that they haven’t had sexual relationships that were unwanted.
Be careful about how you use the information You can’t always know what to expect from someone you meet.
It might be hard to tell if they can be trusted to share all of their past, or you might find that their sexual histories are just too intimate.
If this is the case and you can trust them to keep their own past private, you can take advantage of the information they might be able to share.
Be open to exploring more and ask for feedback if you need to.
You should be open to sharing your own past.
But remember: You should never reveal too much of yourself without someone’s permission.
So don’t be afraid to ask for your partner’s permission before asking for a detailed history.
It could be helpful for you to know that they were sexually abused